Sarah Faraday and Faraday to Mary Deacon and William Deacon   7 and 10 September 1862

Lowestoft | Sepr 7th 1862

Dear Mary

We have had such pleasure in hearing your journal that I am quite inclined to write a few lines & feel much for you and William in all your discomforts & anxieties I really think you must be heartily glad to get rid of all your passengers; it is a great trial of character being in such close companionship for so long a time & in such monotony. I should be sorry to judge too severely or I should say the passengers were below the average in moral character so many inclined to drink, but it is a tedious time & people do not know what to do with their time. I am much concerned at your continual sickness & should really fear it might affect your general health, I do not wonder at your husband thinking of leaving you behind for a while though as you say it would be a great loss husband & friends at once & too much to think of, but I hope you will consider seriously before you go again - I know it would be no trifle but it might be borne -

Jane is writing so no doubt has told you what a pleasant visit we have been paying to Old Buckenham & how we have left Margaret [Barnard] there to extend hers a little while, we came on to this place to refresh & rest ourselves. The air is very bracing here & we really needed rest visiting & talking is very fatiguing particularly when so many are very deaf & we are always obliged to take the lead - but notwithstanding it is a visit full of interest. - Among other things Jane took some lessons in driving which I was glad she should have the opportunity of doing & she enjoyed very much, there is a little chaise to let at Hampton Court but so far we could not drive so did not hire it - things of interest are continually going on amongst us both public & private but I hardly seem to know what to touch upon Jane has been many times to the InterNation Exhibition1 & I have been twice which is more than I expected as my time for these things is pretty well over, of course it had brought many to London & our meeting has been continually replenished by strangers, our dear old Meeting which we are so soon to give up, this is the last month I understand2, I feel quite inclined to regret it but no doubt the new one will have many advantages particularly to the young - Jane & your Uncle are out for a walk on the Pier[.] Supper is la<<id>> the Sabbath away from all our friends is rather dull we are so little used to it -

10th Jane has received letters from home, they are anxious about your mother3 she has not been sleeping so well, I quite encourage them to have some one to help in the nights for they are getting worn having new servants who take no part in the nights but you will hear full particulars from your sisters - I hear from your Aunt Buchanan4 this morning, she has been spending a month at Eastbourne with her family & Nathaniel5 & George Edward6 have been to Norway. Only think how the young men travel about - they have returned[.]

Our poor Anderson has lost his wife7 and we have a new porter8, also Dr Frankland is appointed professor of Chemistry9, so you see we have our share of changes, I do not know whether you heard of the death of poor Lacey10 - he had taken a house in Chelsea & was going to let it & so hoped to gain a living - his wife11 was confined a little while before his death so there is trouble poor thing[.]

You will be interested in hearing about James’ engagement12. I have not seen the young lady yet nor James either since the engagement, we hear that he seems very happy & all the family are pleased with her so far - I do not know whether you heard that we have had a letter from James Gray13 (at least his sister Ellen [Giles] has) he is married at New York I think & his wife was just confined I hope he may make a good steady husband he has many kind valuable qualities -

I dare say some one has written about poor Sarah Macomies14 trouble - losing her second little girl15 by a railway accident; it was very grievous; her mother was taking a walk with her & they had to cross the rail, she ran on first & an express came up & killed her at once poor Sarah it is her first grief of that kind -

Mrs Giles seemed sinking in spirit & strength so it was decided that she should go & pay a visit to her sister Eliza [Metcalfe]16 with her two youngest & her eldest girl, & it seems to be answering its purpose17 - 4 boys were taking their holiday with their Aunt Maria Proctor18 at Tynemouth, Mr John Giles continues to take a very kind interest in their concerns & visits them once a week which is a great support to Ellen left as she is with so many boys19.

We hear that William Gray20 is to be married next Saturday to Emily Deacon21 as no doubt you have heard, there is rather a serious difference in their age 12 years on the wrong side but we are all very well pleased upon the whole for that seems the one drawback only think that is the 5th of the Deacon family who have become our Nephew or niece if I may include Mrs Walter22 - Jane & your Uncle are busy pricking or marking on a pattern from the family friend which Jane has found here, we have a very good collection of books in this room which is a great addition to a country lodging on a wet day which this is. I suppose with all your passengers you had quite a variety of reading according to different peoples taste - but I am quite at the end of my paper so will sign myself with love to William | Your affectionate Aunt | S. Faraday


Dear Mary & William - The being at Lowestoft has been a continual reminder to us of you both in your ship & we have looked at the ships passing north in ballast & almost out of the water & then looked out for them in the distance going Southwards in Cargo and always seen something to remind us of you. I am very glad to know you have got out of your living cargo for they must have been a troublesome lot & now & then the heavy soldiering accent Jeannies cargo well come to mind & I wonder how that will turn out - but all is hallowed by affectionate wishes & love & earnest thoughts for your wellfare I know you get all the news or I would tell of mother & James & others. Love to you my dear creatures from your Affectionate Uncle. M. Faraday.

That is the 1862 International Exhibition which opened on 1 May 1862. Ann.Reg., 1862, 104: 77-82.
This was the move of the London Sandemanian meeting house from Paul’s Alley to Barnsbury Grove. See Cantor (1991), 41-2.
Margaret Barnard.
Charlotte Buchanan.
Nathaniel Buchanan (d.1907, age 69, GRO). Nephew of Sarah Faraday’s. In 1861 census as a bookseller’s clerk (TNA RG9/135, f.13, p.26).
Edward Barnard Buchanan (d.1869, age 36, GRO). One of Sarah Faraday’s nephews. Civil Engineer; Colston (1873), 53.
Ann Anderson (d.1862, age 64, GRO). Wife of Charles Anderson who died on 27 July 1862.
Alfred Welch. See RI MM, 7 July 1862, 11: 445.
RI MM, 7 July 1862, 11: 445.
Henry Lacey (d.1862, age 44, GRO). Porter at the Royal Institution, 1844–1862. RI MM, 5 February 1844, 9: 289-90 and 5 May 1862, 11: 423.
Mary Lacey, née Stone (age 29 in 1861 census, TNA RG9/43, f.90, p.12) married Lacey, as his second wife, on 12 December 1859. GRO.
To Elizabeth Cooper Jennings (1843–1936, GRO under Barnard). Engaged to James Faraday Barnard whom she married on 2 June 1863, The Times, 8 June 1863, p.1, col.a.
James Gray (b.1819, TNA RG4/4664, f.7). A nephew of Faraday’s.
Sarah Macomie, née Gray. (1816–1882, GRO). A niece of Faraday’s who in 1849 married James Macomie (d.1874, age 66, GRO) described as a bookbinder in the 1871 census, TNA RG10/856, f.85, p.23.
Ellen Faraday Macomie (1852–1862, GRO). She was killed by a railway locomotive on 8 July 1862 at Wimbledon.
Elizabeth Metcalfe, née Gray (1814–1886, GRO under Metcalf). A niece of Faraday’s and a Sandemanian at Hawes.
Maria Proctor, née Gray (d.1904, age 74, GRO). A niece of Faraday’s.
Her husband, William Giles, had died on 4 October 1861.
William Gray (d.1881, age 49, GRO). One of Faraday’s nephews and a metalworker according to the 1871 census, TNA RG10/247, f.36, p.11.
Emily Deacon (1821–1902, GRO under Gray). Married William Gray on 13 September 1862.
The other four marriages were Thomas John Fuller Deacon to Caroline Reid in 1846 (see letter 1883, volume 3), Frances Laura Deacon (1831–1899, Deacon (1899), GRO) to David Reid (1832–1914, Reid (1914), GRO, described in the 1861 census as a Newcastle watchmaker, TNA RG9/3818, f.78, p.4) in 1858, Mary Barnard to William Matheson Deacon in 1860 (see letter 3866, volume 5) and the silversmith Walter Barnard (1833–1922, Fallon (1992), 32) to Ellen Rutt (c.1835–1908, GRO, whose mother was a Deacon) in 1859.

Bibliography

DEACON, Catherine A. (1899): Records of the Family of Deacon of Kettering and London, with notices of allied families, London.

FALLON, John P. (1992): Marks of London Goldsmiths and Silversmiths 1837-1914, London.

REID, Christian Leopold (1914): Pedigree of the Family of Ker ... [and] Ker-Reid, Newcastle.